tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-196609362024-03-23T13:53:39.090-04:00The Adoption VoidOne adoptees' attempt to explore the conflicting feelings of having been adopted, and the impact this has had on her life, her choices and her experiences.
Welcome to "<a href="http://adoptionvoid.blogspot.com">The Adoption Void.</a>"Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.comBlogger76125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1144183919753803712006-04-04T16:51:00.000-04:002006-04-04T16:51:59.770-04:00For info about an alternativeFor info about an alternative, click here.Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1144091823908726312006-04-03T15:17:00.000-04:002006-04-03T15:17:05.193-04:00I'm moving!I am such a follower. LOL I’ve decided to move my blog onto the new WordPress server. Don’t forget to update your bookmarks. You don’t want to miss anything. Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1143981427829026302006-04-02T08:37:00.000-04:002006-04-02T08:37:07.840-04:00Are you bored? Take a stumble!About 8 months ago, maybe a little more, I discovered this neat little piece of software you can (SAFELY!!! I promise!) install – it is called “Stumble Upon”. What this is, is something called a “browser extension.” Your browser is what you view websites in – you’re probably using Microsoft’s Internet Explorer, most people do.Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1143676293238803012006-03-29T18:51:00.000-05:002006-03-29T18:51:33.426-05:00Imagine all the people...If we could reduce the world’s population to a village of precisely 100 people, with all existing human ratios remaining the same, the demographics would look something like this:60 Asians 12 Europeans 5 US Americans and Canadians 8 Latin Americans 14 Africans 49 would be female 51 would be male 82 would be non-white 18 Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1143317072562905112006-03-25T15:04:00.000-05:002006-03-25T15:04:32.773-05:00DNA Testing - A change in plansI think I mentioned in an earlier post that I asked my sisters to do DNA testing with me. This is best, I believe, for all our sakes. I want us to KNOW. I don’t want there to be doubts floating around in our heads, impacting our relationships down the road. This is too important for there to be any mistakes. My one sister (J) told my other sister (R) that she Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1143069673154538932006-03-22T18:21:00.000-05:002006-03-22T18:21:13.260-05:00Were you there?When I had that dream, him sitting on the bench, wearing that hat, in the towering halls – were you there, showing me what would be?On the day I first met him, when I couldn’t help but think how cute he was – were you there, smiling, waiting to see if I would remember?When one arm went left and the other went forward before impact – were you there, keeping me safe, Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1142903442120092932006-03-20T20:10:00.000-05:002006-03-20T20:10:45.516-05:00For Kim Kim, for me, and for anyone else who needs to hear this.This is probably the longest post you’ll ever read from me. Sit back, grab a cuppa joe, and get ready – I’m going to go out on a major limb, here. I’m going to discuss my spiritual beliefs within the context of my adoption and my life. I’m doing this because Kim Kim asked on her blog, “What have you humans done for your adoption healing work?&Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1142670719845083872006-03-18T03:31:00.000-05:002006-03-18T03:31:59.910-05:00Give me your linksI’ve fallen behind on updating the Linky Links, so pleaseeeeeee be kind and post a link to your blog (or cool blogs you read regularly) in the comments so I can get you (them) added! I’m beggin’ here! All links added to Linky Links also get posted on the Soul of Adoption website! (For which, by the way, I’m still looking for columnists!)Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1142626475632661922006-03-17T15:14:00.000-05:002006-03-17T15:14:35.693-05:00It has been a rather short journey, all things consideredTimeline – “Sometime” 1993: Requested non-id from agency“Sometime” 1993: Attended a few adoptee support meetings“Sometime” 1993: Was convinced (read: manipulated, guilted, etc.) to not search for birth family and stupidly, I went along with it“Sometime” between 1993 and 1998: Lost copy of non-id from agencyDecember 6th,Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1142541740915593162006-03-16T15:42:00.000-05:002006-03-16T15:42:20.986-05:00Damn those pins and needlesI found them.Yes, you read that right. I found them. Last night, middle of the night, through sheer happenstance and coincidence, I found them. I found her, her new husband, her ex-husband and all her kids. It even looks like she had a baby boy about a year and a half after I was born with her new husband. Cool, a baby brother! There are six older siblings.&Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1142472757253363882006-03-15T20:32:00.000-05:002006-03-15T20:32:37.316-05:00Warning: This one might gross you outThis entry is about medical issues. Specifically, medical issues I’m dealing with. This post is NOT for the “faint at heart.” I’m going to be talking about some gross stuff here. What is important is that if I’d had access to my birth family right from the start, it would not have taken me over 10 years to find out what is happening with my Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1141770230955731762006-03-07T17:23:00.000-05:002006-03-07T17:23:50.996-05:00I'm planning to adoptDoggies! LOLThis has nothing to do with human adoption, sorry! I’m going to gush on about the doggies hubby and I are going to be adopting next year. Here’s a few pictures of the breed to whet your appetite. This is a Goldendoodle pup. They are a cross between Golden Retrievers and Poodles. I really like the coloring in this one – it seems to Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1141349126780774412006-03-02T20:25:00.000-05:002006-03-02T22:36:03.023-05:00One sentence per year of my lifeAfrIndie Mum had this meme on her blog, so I thought I’d give it a shot.1. Born at Swedish Covenant hospital in Chicago, placed with Lake Bluff Homes for Children. Lucky me, I was adopted. 2. My grandmother died, which still makes me sad because she was the only other redhead in my adoptive family. I wish I’d known her.3. We moved into the house I’d live in Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1141148599910174372006-02-28T12:43:00.000-05:002006-02-28T12:43:19.953-05:00Just Like MeHave you seen it? Do you even know what it is? Well let me tell you about it – then I’ll tell you where to find it!“It” is a new song/video created by Darryl McDaniels/Lovelace aka Run DMC and Sarah Mclachlan. It’s a remake/rewrite of the old Harry Chapin song, “Cats In The Cradle,” remember that?Darryl recently did a special for VH1 Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1140931383850707762006-02-26T00:23:00.000-05:002006-02-26T00:23:03.910-05:00Dear mom and dadHi, it’s me, your daughter - writing again! I’ve decided that I’m going to blog letters to you as things come to mind. I want you to be able to see where I’ve been when we finally meet again.I’m learning more about you everyday. I hope you will laugh with me over some of the coincidences and ironies that I’m finding as I search for you. Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1140753459712494722006-02-23T22:57:00.000-05:002006-02-23T22:57:39.783-05:00Amazing how fast a week can passI just realized it has been a week since I’ve blogged anything. Blame it on the hubby – he has been home most of this week as he is transitioning into his new job. He “officially” starts at 8 AM tomorrow morning. It has been an eventful week – and yes, I know, I’ve got a dozen or more emails to answer! I’ll do my best to get to Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1140223829100914912006-02-17T19:50:00.000-05:002006-02-17T19:50:29.110-05:00Ok, tell me what you think - Manuela had this on her blog, asking her readers to give feedback on how they perceive her. I thought it was pretty neat and decided to put one up for myself. So, if you’d please, visit this link, and pick a few words you think describe me. You might consider creating one yourself, too – I think it’s kind of cool to get a glimpse into how we see each other.&Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1140207869823908102006-02-17T15:24:00.000-05:002006-02-17T15:24:29.873-05:00Some happy personal newsI’ve mentioned before that I travel with my husband for his work. We’ve been doing this for years. We were on the road so much traveling from plant to plant that we ended up selling our house and putting our things into storage. We could not justify paying a mortgage on a place were “visited” only a few weeks a year. Ever since then, we’ve Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1140127332225389682006-02-16T17:02:00.000-05:002006-02-16T17:02:12.293-05:00Dear mom and dad,Dear mom and dad,Guess what I received today? I received a letter containing the information you provided to the agency when you placed me. Want to know what I learned?About mom I learned:You had a case of appendicitis when you were pregnant with me. Was that scary for you? Were you afraid? Did the surgery hurt? Did you recover quickly? Was your Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com11tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1139958501409987202006-02-14T18:08:00.000-05:002006-02-14T18:08:21.536-05:00Raw and angryI had an appointment with the eye doctor today. First exam I’ve had in several years. Loved the doctor. Since it looks like we will be permanently relocating to southern Michigan in the very near future, it will be easy for me to keep seeing this particular optometrist. Yeay! Feels like I’m putting down roots again.Since this was my first visit, I had to Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1139821089586049412006-02-13T03:58:00.000-05:002006-02-13T03:58:09.636-05:00A day in our lifeSomewhere in the world, there are 5 or 6 adults who are probably sleeping right now, dreaming their dreams, perhaps snoring, maybe lying beside their spouses or lovers. They are my brothers and sisters.Somewhere in the world, 5 or 6 adults probably enjoyed a Sunday afternoon, perhaps cooked dinner with their families, maybe watched a little television. They are my brothers and Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1139656728937850742006-02-11T06:18:00.000-05:002006-02-11T06:18:49.663-05:00Amazing how a simple phone call can make you stupid happyDon’t get too excited, this isn’t about adoption. LOL I just got off the phone with my best friend T. Read the previous two posts for background. I’m on cloud 9 over here, grinning like a Cheshire cat. What is of primary importance to me is that despite my foolish behavior, he still loves me, is still the same friend he always was. It was as if no Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1139629489344298772006-02-10T22:44:00.000-05:002006-02-10T22:44:49.393-05:00He loves me, he loves me not, he loves meIn my last entry, I blogged about my self-created drama with my best friend. Well ladies & gents, he wrote back. And he still loves me. Did you ever have someone you were close to and you had a really special “uniquely yours” way of communicating the specialness of your relationship? Some cutsie words, a little ritual, something? We have one of those Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1139597754814362812006-02-10T13:55:00.000-05:002006-02-10T13:55:54.843-05:00I am supposed to be sleepingI am supposed to be sleeping, but it is 1:20 in the afternoon and I’m awake.I have a best friend. I want you to know that I have a best friend. I have known him for, what, -counting backwards– shit, this seems impossible, almost 10 years? Holy crap. Wow. Seriously, you’ve no idea how mind blowing that is. Ok, anyway. My best friend, I&Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19660936.post-1139545135155698482006-02-09T23:18:00.000-05:002006-02-09T23:18:55.163-05:00People on TVDo you ever look at the faces of people on TV and wonder if you’re related?I have a favorite artist. He is a photographer. His work is definitely not for everyone, but I am always moved by his pieces because I understand what is behind them. His name is Spencer Tunick. Don’t click on that link if you are uncomfortable with the idea of seeing hundreds of Heartenedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11709076654210226328noreply@blogger.com1